Feng Shui and Relationships
Are you aware that your surroundings can have a profound influence on your relationships with others? From a feng shui perspective they help set the stage for the quality and type of people we attract to us and send hidden messages that either embrace or dismiss them. I hear this often from business clients who after moving to a new location are somewhat mystified by their inability to make useful connections. Others wonder why healthy supportive personal relationships continue to elude them. The clues can be subtle or obvious, planned or by necessity, but they always reinforce our inner desires. A locked gate, darkened door or ‘no admittance’ sign sends a much different message than a brightly lit path, cozy loveseat or vase of flowers in a reception room. It’s true we choose our surroundings for a reason, but feng shui teaches that we also have the ability to change the story.
Of course personality traits, timing and life experience impact where we are at any given moment with relationships (see Four Pillars.) But my experience concludes that the environment we create always mirrors what’s going on in real time. When change is desired, feng shui can help identify and remove the barriers. For example, do you have room in your life for a partner? You’d be surprised to know how many people who live or work alone have grown into their surroundings over time and literally lack space for another. If so, you might want to clear a section of your office for a new team member or make room at the dinner table for someone to share your life with. Full closets, seating for one, cramped office space and narrow entrances all convey the message that you have what you need.
You might check the décor and artwork in your surroundings for symbols that discourage conversation. Images of people with their backs to the room, barren landscapes, lone travelers and isolated or empty venues speak of your desire to remain alone. A picture of two people, animals or flowers indicates that you are open to sharing and cooperation. Arrange furniture in gathering areas of the home or office to encourage conversation rather than debate. Round shapes represent unity and accessibility in feng shui, so choose circular tables, bowls, mirrors and patterns to connect the perimeters of a seating area or department. Avoid sharp angled furniture, objects or pictures in favor of soft, yielding images if you wish to attract attention to a room or area.
Use pastel colors in rooms where you wish to grow your relationships. Shades of pale blue, green, cream and pink are soothing and help put people at ease in new environments. Good colors for the bedroom, they create a romantic and peaceful yin environment for rest and rejuvenation. At work, they encourage cooperative discussion. Place the head of your bed and the back of your desk chair against a solid wall away from but facing the entrance to the room. This is considered to be the command position in feng shui and allows an optimum vantage point to assess your opportunities and welcome incoming ch’i. Just be sure to allow equal access on both sides of the desk/bed and flank with furniture of equal dimension.
Once you’ve seen your surroundings through feng shui eyes, you’ll discover how to envision, then manifest change. As always, let me know if I can help.
Wishing you fulfilling relationships and good ch’i,
Diane Gallin, CFSC